Darin C. Smith

The Joy Nobody Talks About—But Every Christian Longs For

A Joy That’s Quiet—But Lasting


Ask most Christians what brings them joy, and you’ll hear answers like:


“Worship on Sunday”


“A powerful sermon”


“God showing up in a hard moment”


But there’s a joy Scripture talks about that almost no one mentions.


It’s not loud. It’s not flashy. But it lasts.


The apostle John calls it his greatest joy—and if you’ve ever discipled someone, raised children in the faith, or walked with a struggling believer, this joy is one you long for too.


Let’s break down 3 John 4 and rediscover the joy nobody talks about—but every Christian longs for.



1. A Joy Greater Than Comfort, Success, or Applause

“I have no greater joy…”


John is writing this near the end of his life. He’s seen miracles. He’s walked with Jesus. He’s suffered exile. He’s pastored through division and deception.


But what gives him joy isn’t ease.

It’s not legacy.

It’s not ministry milestones.


It’s this: his spiritual children walking in the truth.


No greater joy—not the crowds in Ephesus, not the letters read across the early church. Just the quiet, deep joy of seeing someone stay faithful.


In a world chasing attention, John is celebrating faithfulness.


2. “My Children” — More Than Just a Title

John’s not talking about his biological family. He’s talking about those he’s discipled.


In the early church, discipleship wasn’t casual. It was intimate. Life-on-life. The Greek and Jewish worlds both understood teachers as spiritual fathers.


When John says “my children,” it’s not symbolic—it’s relational.


These are people he taught the Scriptures.


People he prayed over.


People who may have once wandered—but now walk.


This joy isn’t theoretical. It’s personal.


If you’ve ever poured your heart into someone spiritually, you know what this feels like.


3. “Walking in the Truth” Means Steady, Costly Obedience

He doesn’t say:


“Who shouted the loudest during worship.”


“Who memorized the most Scripture.”


“Who went viral with their testimony.”


He says: “Walking in the truth.”


In Greek, the word is peripateō (περιπατέω)—a present tense verb meaning continuous, daily conduct.


This is not a sprint. It’s a long walk in the same direction.


Walking in truth means:


Not drifting with the culture


Not shrinking back when truth is costly


Not redefining Scripture for comfort


It’s steady, faithful obedience—when no one’s watching.


4. This Is the Joy of Every Disciple-Maker

This verse isn’t just for pastors.


It’s for:


Parents raising children in the faith


Small group leaders guiding others


Older believers mentoring the younger


Friends reading the Word together week after week


If you’ve ever invested in someone’s soul, you know what it feels like to wonder if it mattered.


And when you see them stay faithful—that’s the joy.


Not success. Not status.

But spiritual fruit.


Paul felt it too:


“What is our hope or joy or crown…? Is it not you?” (1 Thess. 2:19)


5. In a World of Shallow Faith, This Joy Is Rare

The early church faced what we face today:


Shallow faith that fizzles


False teaching that spreads


Leaders who build platforms instead of people


John names it later in the same letter:


“Diotrephes… likes to put himself first.” (3 John 9)


But what brings joy isn’t platform-building—it’s people walking in truth.


That’s what lasts.

That’s what honors Christ.

That’s what brings joy nobody talks about—but every true Christian longs for.


6. Application: Who Are You Discipling? Who’s Discipling You?

This isn’t just encouragement—it’s a call to action.


Are you walking in truth?


Are you helping someone else do the same?


You don’t need a stage to teach the Bible. You need Scripture, consistency, and a soft heart.


One spiritual child walking in truth is better than a hundred likes on your latest post.


Start with one person. One book. One meeting a week.

Discipleship isn’t dramatic—it’s daily.


Final Word

There’s a joy most Christians don’t talk about.

But it’s the kind of joy that holds fast when feelings fade.


It’s the joy of knowing someone is still walking—still faithful—still holding fast to truth.


You don’t need applause to feel it.

You just need fruit.


Walk in truth.

Help someone else walk in it too.

And you’ll find the joy John spoke of—the joy every Christian longs for.


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